When do you stand up for what's right?
The other day as I was with my cousin we were talking about standing up for what is right.
No matter what, no matter who comes at you, no matter how many friends you lose, you still stand up for what's right. That is how we were brought up, this is what our moms taught us.
You stick together: if you’re family or if you’re friends, you stick together. You stand up for them. If they hurt, you hurt and if someone does them wrong, they might as well have done it to you because you will be there standing behind the person you love, doing the right thing.
People don't get this concept anymore. They don't want to rock the boat or be "politically incorrect"; whatever the heck that means nowadays, as the littlest things set everyone off on that rant.
They rather stay on their sides and be "nice" and don't stand up for the truth.
I am old school; if you’re my friend or family, I am there for you no matter what so I have your back. I am your friend for life and I will do anything for you. I get pissed off if someone hurts you and believe me, I will let them know in no uncertain terms.
I will call out a liar, a cheater, a person of no scruples; oh yes, you will not get away with it while I am that person's friend.
But this last year I realized there are only a few of us left, true friends and family that will do that for me.
I am an open book; if I am happy, I write about it and if I am sad, have problems or if someone breaks my heart, you better believe I am writing about it.
I am transparent so like it or not, it's not about you!
It's about helping others find their voices and showing them that even in the darkest of times, they have to have faith, be open and honest and know that it's okay to fall down as long as you get back up and keep fighting.
So these last few years when the man I thought loved me and my best friend hurt me to the core, I thought my "friends" would stand up for me and speak out against the wrong doing that was done.
I obviously was wrong, but here's the beauty about being wrong, you get to learn a lesson, a very important lesson; not everyone does the right thing and not everyone is your friend.
Hard lessons to learn but really good ones as well because it separates the true friends from the phony ones; it lets you know people's true colors, their real agendas and who they really are.
Do you want a bunch of phony friends who don't have your back or a small handful who have enough pride and gumption to say "No, that's wrong and I will no longer be your friend after the crappie thing you've done to this person".
See its okay...I know who is who now: the gossipers, the fair weather friends, the ones who have no backbone and I realized I don't want or need them in my life. So I thank them for this lesson, for showing me their true colors, for closing the door and for showing me who my real friends are.
So today "my friends" remember not everyone who hugs you is really there for you. Some of them are just looking where to place the knife. Pray you learn the lessons that are meant to make you stronger and to stand up for what's right.
"Be the change you want to see"
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"
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