How to Recognize a Manchild

How to Recognize a Manchild

Apr 19, 2017, 3:34:05 PM Life and Styles

For some reason, it seems like there is "manchild" (and womanchild) epidemic taking over our world. As a mystic, I’ve concluded the real menace is an inner spirit which takes over. I’ve been tasked to warn unsuspecting young women before it’s too late. If you are already in love with a Manchild possessed by this spirit, I may be able to help you. Seriously, read on.

What is a manchild spirit?

First, it’s not just one entity, it’s an entire family of spirits. Each culture has their own. However, there are similarities that are cross-cultural.  Since some of you have heard of the term manchild before, let’s start there.

These entities are similar, but I want to go one step further. A spirit (family) that embodies a manchild obscures the light within them to the point where he no longer sees it within himself.  

A spiritual remedy for this dis-ease is an often-painful process called self-reclamation. Self reclamation is when someone goes through the process of reclaiming their true selves from the insider out. It is very difficult. And often very painful. And since very few will take this challenge, the manchild can be a life-long behavior.

How to identify those who have lost themselves to those inner spirits:

1.       He (the manchild) will want you or the woman in his life to manage his checkbook, assuming he has one. Come to think of it, he wants help managing all his day to day affairs even though he is an adult.

2.       He still lives with his mom (dead or alive, think Bates Motel).  You may hear her voice coming through him every now and then. “Norman, Norman, this is your mother.” Ok seriously, he is looking for a woman to take the place of a motherly caretaker.

3.       He consistently calls you, his girlfriend, or wife mother or Ma, or big Mama. Anything that places her in the role of his mother, even for just a moment.  He may not remember the real you. Actually, he often does not. 

4.       Their lives are extremely fluid.  The majority of their decisions are emotional decisions. He consistently makes important life decision based on how they “feel” to him, instead of having a plan and taking action.  In spiritual terms, emotions are energies in motion - spiral energies or spirits that come and go. They are not good judges to employ decision making. But that doesn't matter to him. 

5.       In a sense, they can make excellent girlfriends. You will vibe with this person like sister-friends. He appears to be listening to everything you have to say. But upon careful evaluation, you may realize he listens only that what matters to him.   You may find yourself calling him “Gurl” in conversations by mistake. 

6.       He gives his authority away to anyone who will make his life easier including his grocer down the street. Or that strange dude without work, he brings around to give advice on work. Yet he detests those in authority in fields that might actually give him correct advice. That inner conflict is the fight between his Soul and these spirits.

7.       He whines about everything he feels he “HAS” to do. His sense of responsibility is based on his mood.

8.       He lacks basal aptitude on how to care for himself or a family in today's world. Instead he focuses on what’s outside the scope of his reality, like video games, world affairs when he can't drive across town, and other forms of escapism like starring at a blank wall for hours. 

9.       He complains constantly about his job with no real active long term plan to move into something else. He keeps his plans secret, because he has none. But he doesn’t want you to know. Manchildren can also be dangerous when confronted, so I would take care when approaching them about their behavior.

10.   He avoids decision making in hopes choices in life will eventually just go away. He is often very religious but doesn’t follow the tenets of his religion. It’s a crutch, so unsuspecting women will think he is a man of God, he is. Those inner spirits are the one god he worships, feeds, and falls on his knees and "prey" to subconsciously.

11.   He never seems to have money. He takes you out, but forgets his card or money. He doesn’t seem to know  that he cannot carry his own weight financially and never has been able to. Advice to you. Never mention, you are taking on a bigger load, he will likely tell you that you are selfish for keeping count and resent you for reminding him of his inadequacies. By the way if you notice that he hates daylight or the Sun or prefers to reflect the light of the moon, he really doesn't want to grow. 

12.   He is constantly tired and must lay down. On his days off, he will sleep until the afternoon and starts his day in the evening.  He may love the news as it makes him feel he is participating in life.  This is the “go to” solution to any problem or life challenge, sleep and focus on what he cannot control.  On close observation, you may notice someone in this state will move in stop and go motions. Often confused. As if he has restricted blood flow to the brain.

13.   He takes no responsibility for anything and blames everyone for everything that goes wrong in his life. Watch out for this one, his main power rests in his ability to cause you to take responsibility for those things that are not yours. So, he gravitates and attracts the overly responsible type. 

This brings me to solutions.  The solution lie within you not outside of you. If you love someone who is in this state, your first step is to get the idea of changing your friend or mate out of your head.  If he does change, it won’t be because of you. It’s impossible for a boy to become a man without his own higher self at the helm.  No one can give that to anyone, man or woman.

Secondly, you are probably mirroring some or many of the same issues. We attract those that help us evolve. So many its time to witness how you influence the world around you as well. This is not to cause shame or blame, but to take responsibility for making changes within yourself first. 

Learn from this experience and heal yourself. This is why you summoned him in the first place – for your own healing.    

1.      Understand you attracted this manchild because you may need to work on your fears, insecurities and transforming the social conditionning you received the first 7-14 years of your life. 

2.      It will take time, but you must review your own life patterns.


Quick Tips: What not to do?

1.       Sage him whenever he is around you

2.       Slip Psalm 53 in his favorite coat jacket

3.       Put holy water in his aftershave

4.       Contact me for a powder you can blow on his face. Sorry, he is already a zombie

5.       Read this long article and do nothing

Manchild is a fictional character but you may have recognize this in many in your world. The key is to heal yourself first. No matter what's "out there," you have no real control over other people.

I support sensitive free spirits who need to develop boundaries and deep self care. 

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Published by Irmina Tutu

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