Don’t Be the First to Speak
I am fully aware of the attitude of our times and the pressure placed upon each and every one of us to dominate and establish our individuality and value as quickly as we possibly can. To do this, we’ve created a generation of gabbers and grabbers, wanting to grab the attention of the world around them by gabbing their way into positions of authority.
We have begun to believe that the person who can chat with the most efficiency is going to be the best candidate for leadership. Yet I tell you:
There is something greater than domination
Because the weakness of domination is that it limits the success of any project to the scope and talent of the dominator.
May I suggest this? Instead of dominating, we should allow ourselves the true purity of participating. In order to participate:
You can not enter a room talking
There are three reasons for this:
1. You do not know what’s going on in that room before you arrive.
2. The room may already have established a spirit which you might “unspirit.”
3. Guess what? This was your day to learn, and you talked right through it.
There is a spiritual intelligence to entering a room and remaining silent until you hear someone else speak.
It doesn’t make you a mouse, unprepared with anything to say. It makes you a saint—one who has arrived to contribute and assist instead of control.
Walk in a room, take a deep breath, listen to what’s being said, respond to questions that come your way, and then ease your way in with whatever gift you can offer to the mix.
Published by Jonathan Cring