This is how you know you found the confidence you were always missing

A lot of us out there have our insecurities and are constantly seeking confidence. All the doubts and worries are challenging to overcome and for most of us it takes a lot of time and experience to get passed these. These insecurities are caused by imbalance at work, friendships that have fallen apart  and relationships that tore our hearts. 

In my lifetime, so far, I have been through fire and ice and have known my share of vulnerability. However, with time, I have realised that once I have reached a certain point in your life, where you are comfortable with who you are and embrace the situations that come your way instead of welcoming them with fear, you gain that confidence you have always wanted. 

Here's how you know you have reached that point in life.

What other people think of you is now just white noise: when you realise that people around you will always have something to say about your looks, people you are dating and jobs you are taking. People with little imagination can only talk about the things and others that are in front of them, sadly with not much life of their own. Once you hit that point of realisation, the rest of the world seems smaller and you are standing tall and more confident than ever.

When you realise you don't anyone to feel happy: Have you ever had that moment when you walked by the lake or else and caught yourself smiling for no reason? That is true happiness. You are comfortable enough being by yourself and do not need to depend on anyone to influence your mood and make you happy. #HappinessStateofMind

When you realise that your job is just a job: The day you realise that you do not need to prove yourself to anyone especially not your employer. Remember that if you were hired by your employer in the first place, they must have seen something in you so just be yourself. Do not create the artificial need to impress, you are more likely to make mistakes then. So, do not try too hard - just be you. 

​When you realise you have a friend you can count on: Boyfriends/Girlfriends will come and go, friends will stay forever. When you realise you have that one/two friends you can always count on. The people that won't judge you and will support your crazy ideas no matter how insane they may be. The people that will give you a hand when needed, will be your shoulder to cry on and be your support system.

When you are ok crying alone: Crying doesn't make you weaker, sometimes, you have to let your emotions go. Crying alone makes you stronger and the pain that you go through is finally released.

When you realise that beauty is overrated: Most of our insecurities, at least for girls, come from the media  and its idea of beauty. How many of you out there, are conscious about your looks? Once you realise that beauty is not defined by the media standards and there is more a to a person than just their looks, you start being more comfortable in your own body and with your own beauty. #BeautyIsOverrated

When you realise that "being weird" makes you unique: Just like beauty standards, who is to say what is weird and what not. Each one of us has a unique personality and we all have to embrace it. Remember, what makes you different from the rest of us is YOU, and what you feel insecure about is what will attract people to you the most. The others will see and appreciate your uniqueness, no one wants to be surrounded by their clones and robots. #BeUnique

When you finally face your fears: When you realise you have nothing to loose and can finally face fears you never thought you could overcome. It can be finally going skydiving or simply asking out a man/woman you have been in love with for years and never had the courage to come up to them. #FaceYourFear

And finally, 

​When you realise that everything in life is relative: Nothing is set in stone and everything is very much relative. There is no right or wrong way of doing things and the only way to find out what works for you is through trial and error.