Father’s Day: A day to celebrate paternal bonds. What if these bonds have been broken, tampered, or never existed to begin with? The term “daddy issues” has such a negative connotation. Urban dictionary offers some synonyms; “slut, cougar, attention whore, bitch…” you get the idea.
While the population of “daddy issued divas” may be a niche market, it is a population nonetheless. And, like any other population, stereotypes always come out to play. Unfortunately, the daddy issue stereotype is a hard one to be associated with. The second a guy finds out a girl’s dad isn’t in the picture… BAM! She must have some serious daddy issues.
As a believer in Freudian theories, I can’t argue the importance of familial relationships in the development in personality, emotions, and future relationships. What I can argue, though, is that a damaged parental relationships doesn’t always lead to a broken person.
Here are 5 reasons why a Daddy Issued Diva is ultimately a stronger, more well rounded female;
1. We have thick skin:
When the person who played a main role in creating you is the person who tries to break you down, you learn how to take criticism. We understand that our biggest critic is ourself, so we consider our sources & simply dust any unnecessary negativity off of our shoulders.
2. We say how we feel:
And we mean what we say. As many therapy sessions have taught, in order to deal with your issues, you need to discuss them. Bottling things up inside only leads to an explosion, and who wants to deal with that?
3. We know better:
When your baseline of comparison is an unfortunate one, you learn to raise the bar. We won’t settle for the shady characters of the world– because we’ve dealt with enough in our own home.
4. We are appreciative:
The little things count. Grand gestures are red flags, because we are use to them being distractions from the garbage that lies beneath the surface.
5. We are genuine:
Knowing that we are “daddy issued” makes us vulnerable. In being in this position, the best way to carry on is to be 100% genuine in everything you say and do.
So, the next time you meet a Daddy Issued Diva, consider yourself lucky. Look at this girl with nothing but respect, because it is more than likely that she has been through things you never could imagine. And to my Daddy Issued Divas out there– stay true to yourself, believe in the beautiful person that you are, and never settle for less than you deserve.
Published by Lauren DiTo