Being in your 20's is the weirdest time of your life. If you aren't there yet, good luck you will see what I mean. If you're past it, you know exactly what i'm talking about.
You are too young, and too old at the same time. Ten years ago, you thought by now you would have your life together and be a real "adult". You would be like your parents, you would have a "real" job and know what a mortgage is and probably have a savings account.
Instead most of us in our 20's are realising being a grown up is a lie. The older I get the more my parents become 'realer' people. They have hopes and dreams and fears, just like me. They also have no idea what they are doing about 90% of the time, just like me.
I am currently 23 and I am a TEFL teacher living in Bangkok. Do you have any idea how bizarre that is to say out loud to people? I rent a flat, I live in a country 9000 miles away from everyone I know, people trust me with their children every day. But I still practice my Starbucks order in line before I have to say it. I sometimes forget to buy laundry soap and do my washing because i'm so used to my mum doing it for me. I go waaaaay too long without sweeping my apartment because I don't want to get out of bed.
And basically, from talking to people older than me, this is what life is. This is it. You're an adult, congratulations!
No but seriously, CONGRATULATIONS!
Sometimes you really need to give yourself a pat on the back for the little things. It doesn't matter how old you get, if you manage to knock a couple of things off your To-Do list then treat yourself.
Sometimes one of us will walk into the staff room at work and be like;
"This morning I swept my apartment, did a wash, took the bin out, changed my bed sheets, made myself lunch and now i'm at work, HELL YEAH, who's coming to Starbucks with me?"
And we will of course respond with smiles and 'well done' and high fives, and get a celebratory frappuccino. We spent most of the first 18-21 years of our life getting praised every time we do something right. An 'A' in a test, extra pocket money from parents. Treats and prizes and more for lots of little things. Once we are 'independent' are we supposed to start taking all our little victories for granted? Because we are 'grown up' and these are our own responsibilities, are we not supposed to feel a bit of happiness at a job well done?
Because being an "adult" doesn't come with a handbook, it is not something that is just ingrained into you one day, like 'OH that's how you write a CV'. You are always learning, and figuring things out. And that's ok. There are just some things you do not learn whilst you're still in education. So many people leave school and think they have the world figured out, but really you're just getting started.
Because here's the secret to life, NO-ONE has got a clue what they are doing. Everyone is just doing the best they can. So dance party to Britney Spears whilst you get your #adulting done.
The way you #adult is not better or worse than anyone else's. Tweet it, Facebook it, Instagram it, and hashtag the crap out of it. The least you can do is have fun while you're at it.
Published by Rebecca McCandless