When someone we love has passed on, it will certainly be a difficult time for us. The death of someone special may be alleviated somewhat, however, when we know that we have given them the best tribute through a special funeral service and wake. While a wake isn't a requirement, it may make us feel better to have given our loved one an additional tribute to celebrate their life as well. Wakes are social gatherings that usually happen once the funeral service and proceedings have already taken place, and the wake may be attended by different people or the same people. Wakes are less formal compared to a funeral service, and if you are thinking of planning a wake for a loved one, here's your all-important guide to funeral wakes: their purpose, organising one, and more.
A wake is also known as a funeral reception, and this is a more informal 'party' or celebration for the deceased after the funeral service is over. With wakes, everyone can gather and share their stories about the deceased, and they can partake of food and drinks as well. A wake can have different forms of entertainment depending on your preferences and the preferences of your loved one. Mourners who were not able to go to the funeral service can usually join the wake at this point so they can also pay their respects.
How to organise one
Planning a loved one's wake need not be a challenge, but the funeral director (such as the funeral directors in Leeds offered by Carroll & Carroll) can help you with this, especially when planning the logistical and practical details such as looking for a venue, caterer, or entertainment.
When to plan it
The wake usually follows after the specific funeral service. You can choose most venues as long as it fits the number of attendees. But some venues are quite common, and these include church halls, social clubs, pubs, hotels, and sports clubs. If you are tasked with arranging the wake, make sure to reserve the venue ahead of time and ensure that attendees know how to get there.
What to serve
Certain venues can take care of catering, but if you aren't sure, you can also ask the funeral director about any good caterers they may know. If you would like to serve attendees the favourite drinks or food of your loved one, you may be able to do so, as many caterers are quite flexible with these requests. If you want to keep the wake's costs down, you can prepare your own food, and ask relatives and friends to make finger foods or platters of sandwiches.
Since drinking is not done at a funeral service, drinking can be done at a wake, but it may also depend on the venue. Church halls may not permit drinking, although a simple toast to the deceased's honour may be allowed. The provision of drinks will greatly depend on your religion, culture, and lifestyle, but if the wake is to be at a pub, raising a glass or two is often expected.
What to choose as entertainment
Entertainment can also vary, and it often includes music as well as photo slideshows. Most venues will have the facilities you need to share music, but you should confirm this beforehand as you may need to provide a playlist.
Published by Simon Hopes