After The Holidaze

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Once we've all had our fill of Christmas dinners, presents, and family traditions. It's time to sober up from the holiday buzz that overcomes us all. Whether you get drunk off the gift giving and holiday cheer, or just the eggnog, it's a great time to take some self inventory. Did you get what you wanted out of the season? 

If your answer is an all around resounding "Yes!" Then I'm proud of you and happy for you! If. It's not, then why is that? Keep in mind I'm not a therapist or counsellor so I'm not trying to get in your head or solve your emotional problems. I'm trying to open a dialogue. Something I always used to get hung up on was personal satisfaction. 

I mean that in a specific way such as, I would only ever find it if I managed to make everyone else as happy as I could over the holidays. Then I'd second guess myself and wind up miserable. It didn't matter if I KNEW that I did a good job of gift giving or spreading holiday cheer, it would somehow get twisted. 

There's no real solution to this that I can offer you, so instead, this is what I've been doing. Try and understand what you're capable of accomplishing, and then what you'd like to accomplish. If those don't line up, then adjust your perspective. It isn't possible to make every single person on your list perfectly happy. Yet it is possible to do the best you can and feel good about it. 

As we trek through the last week of this very curious epidemic we know as 2016, don't get hung up on the holidays. Look forward to the next chapter or the next project. Even the next holiday if that's your bread and butter. Either way, acknowledge that you did your best, and you're loved no matter how many gifts you brought to the tree, or how many hours you had to work through this season. 

It's sometimes hard to fathom, but we're all doing a little better than we're feeling. 

Happy holidays, may you have a peaceful and love filled end to the year.